}); relaxed and healthy: Look Back 2018

Wednesday, January 2, 2019

Look Back 2018

2018 was certainly a year of many changes and exciting new experiences. As I look back and reflect on the 365 days of 2018, I realize no matter how much you want to plan out your future the reality is sometimes much more exciting and tumultuous than you can even imagine.

I received 2018 hoping (yeah immigration sucks) that by Easter my fiancé and I will no longer be living in separate countries. This meant that I have a wedding to plan and to make preparation for him to move here. What we didn’t realized at the beginning of the process was that immigration was so costly, so a big wedding was now in the distant future.

After enjoying ourselves and doing a lot of first we got the curveball of all time, my mother-in-law passed away suddenly from a battle with cancer.  If you have never seen a grown man weep, I pray you never have to; I felt so helpless and had no idea how to comfort him. However we made it through and came out stronger.

My favorite part of 2018 was spending the last eight months with my husband and getting to know each other better and learning how to be a cohesive unit.

So without future ado here’s a recap on the happening in my life in 2018.


New Year’s and my husbands (then finance) birthday are a few days apart, and I was feeling a little down because he’s there and I’m here.  To make matters worse it was one of the coldest winter in a while so winter blues was kicking in. Here comes February and I was like another Valentine’ day apart. Moreover, USCIS (US Customs and Immigration Services) sent a notice saying they needed additional evidence regarding our petition. I was so ready to be over with this waiting and lack of info, but the government doesn’t work on my timetable. A few days into March we got the news we’ve waiting for, our petition was approved. I don’t think I’ve ever been so excited in my entire life.


With the advent of April the next step in the immigration process began with a fervor. While I was happy that we are finally nearing the finish line, the stress was getting to me. To break up the stress and anticipation of whether the US embassy in Kingston will issue his visa, I planned a three day trip for my son and I to visit DC and take in the cherry blossoms.  This was such an awesome experience, the different monuments was certainly an eye opener. The cherry blossom was at peak bloom, so it was exquisite.
The trip to DC was what I need, I was able to relaxed and enjoy the journey.  After nine months of dealing with USCIS and the State department may fiancé had a visa. On April 27 my fiancé (now husband) stepped off the plane at JFK in New York. I was so surreal, I wondered if I was dreaming.


After spending a few weeks to settling in we decided to forgo a big wedding and just do something intimate with just my mom and my son (he’s doesn’t have any immediate family here). Hence the Baker’s was established on May 25. It was such a beautiful sunny and warm day; just perfect if you asked me.  We went to the courthouse say our I Do’s then went to City Island to have a perfect “reception”. The four of us (us including my mom and son) had such a time, I couldn’t ask for more.

Spend my first birthday with him as husband and wife was great, and it cemented how much we enjoyed each other's company. My birthday celebration included a nice dinner followed by a concert in the park, which is exactly my speed.


Ah the summer months, my favorite time of year.  We decided that we will trying to take in as much local sites and scenes which is exactly what we did.  We went to amusement parks, took in local bars and clubs, visited farms etc.  Had date nights in New York City where we visited local sites and eat at nice restaurants. We enjoyed a weekend trip in which we checked out the New York State fair, toured Syracuse University and took in the American side of Niagara Falls.  


On October 12 we got the worst news, my mother-in-law died unexpectedly.  I have never felt so helpless in my life, my husband was inconsolable. Until you see a grown man cries for his mother you will not understand the love a child has a parent.  While we knew she was battling cancer her prognosis was good but God knows best.  However, the bad news wasn’t over yet in less than twenty-four hours he would lose his aunt to the same disease. After weeks of making arrangement and fighting with the powers be we were able to get everything organized. Flying back to Jamaica to bury his mom and aunt was so heartbreaking that i am not sure how we survive but we did. However, that say what break you makes you stronger, and I do believe this brought us closer.

November- December

Happy Thanksgiving, my husband was so excited to celebrate his first Thanksgiving, so I made sure to go all out to make extra special. He really enjoyed our first Thanksgiving together and looks forward to help with the cooking and prepping next year.

Merry Christmas, spending the holidays as a family is extra special to me because my family means the world to me. Christmas morning is always a fun time in our house and having him experience it was super awesome.

I am looking forward to 2019 and all the special memories that we will make together.   

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