Thursday, March 8, 2018

International Women's Day 2018


Today March 8th is International Women’s Day; the year’s slogan is “Press for Progress” #pressforprogress.

In recent months we have seen the avalanche of sexual misconducts, sexual assault and inappropriate sexual advance coming to light.  We have seen the #metoo movement gaining momentum, and women are using their voices hoping that real changes are happening and will continue to do so.  In light of all this I often question if all this will be a trend and will quietly die down and no real changes will be made.

There is a very strong call for gender parity; and as a community we need to act, call for, motivate, unite and be gender inclusive.  We should stop teaching our girls to “act like a lady”; what does that even mean?  Instead we need to teach then that they are powerful, they are strong, they are leaders, and they can be bosses without being equated to be a man. 

We can press for progress in gender parity in the following ways

·         Maintain a gender parity mindset

·         Challenge stereotypes and biases

·         Forge positive visibility for women

·         Influence others beliefs or actions

·         Celebrate women’s achievements

All day, everyday progress is being made by women all around the world. Let us continue to work tirelessly within our communities to change women lives for the better.

Monday, February 5, 2018

Mending Fences


The idiom mending fences have many definitions, such as:

-Find a solution to a disagreement with somebody

-Rectify a damaged relationship or improve a relationship

-Make peace with a person

At the heart of it, it’s finding a way to move past the hurt, disappointment and angry.  While it is not easy, holding on to grudges and hurt feelings can be like traditions if we are not careful.

 

Should we mend fences even when we really don’t want to?

Sometimes the hurt can be so systematic that the thought of forgiving a person who wronged us can leave us feeling, as if we are asked to climb Mount Everest.  Holding grudges can be so destructive, not only to you but even so much more when grudges are been held within families.  Yes we should seek to make amends even when we don’t want to, because most of the time the reason behind it all is just a misinterpretation of the facts.  I once stopped talking to my best friend because I ask her to wear red and she didn’t; I felt if she had cared about me she would have.  Months later she explained to me that what she had planned to wear did not fit; of course I felt stupid and petty. 


Why we should stop holding on to grudges and hurt feelings?

Letting go of grudges is habit forming just like holding a grudge. Feeling hurt is natural however if we refuse to let that grudge lodge in our gut and instead seeking to let it go our whole life and by extension would be more fulfilling. Losing the friendship of a friend or a love one can leave is feeling or living with regret. 

While it is not ease to ask for forgiveness or to forgive however the other side of it all is PEACE. 

Monday, January 22, 2018

New Year's Resolution -2018


I have always shy away from making New Year’s resolutions because honestly until about three or so years ago I wasn’t a person who sticks to anything.  I lacked motivation and drive, however after spending the last few years making myself accountable, I am pretty confident that I can achieve these goals.
 

·         Read one book per week

·         Meditate thirty minutes per day

·         Refrain from giving my opinion when it is not requested

·         Put my energy into my blog by blog as often as possible


 Read one book per week- I love reading but the past year I haven’t done it as often as I used to because I was putting my energy elsewhere.  My goal is to read 52 books by the end of the year.
 

Meditate thirty minutes per day- I saw a piece on Good Morning America with Dan Harris regarding the benefits of meditating and it had me reflecting on how calm I was when I medicated every day.  My goal is to meditate at least thirty minutes at the end of each day. 
 

Refrain from giving unsolicited opinions- Don’t we all hate those people who has an opinion about every living thing?  Unfortunately I’m one of those people (hangs head in shame).  My goal this year is to keep my unsolicited opinions to myself and limit how much of an opinion I have even when solicited.

Start loving my Blog again- I wrote quite a lot in 2017 but I did not published one post on this here blog (not one). Why? Because I was so busy trying to push through the twist and turns of 2017 to make the time to blog. However, 2018 will be different I will be publishing much more this year about all that interest me.
If you have goal for this new year just know you’ll mess up, you’ll make mistake, fall off track and its okay.  After all we are human and progress is not measured by rigidity but by being consistent. 

 
 

Monday, January 15, 2018

2017 A Year of Contradictions

The 2017 year started off on the right note, I woke up attend New Year’s church service spent the afternoon with my grandparents. The following day had a great day with my son, my sisters, my niece, my nephew and the rest of the family.  Flew home the next morning on a high and settle in to have a fabulous year, if only I knew what the next few months would bring. 


It did not take too long for the wheels to start coming off, first my soon to be mother-in-law ends up in the hospital to undergo cancer treatment. To make matters worse she was my 90 year old grandparents’ caretaker. So while supporting my now fiancée, I am worried about the care of these two special people. Within a few weeks my grandfather’s health started to deteriorate and both ends up in a nursing home.  His health stabilized and they were able to return home but within days the situation go worst and the decision was made to remove them permanently from their home. 

Whew January and February is done and things will start to stabilize (was my thinking).  However, the universe was like not yet.  At the end of March I was laid off, within five days of purchasing a new car. I didn’t know if I should cry or rejoice, because I had planned on seeking a new job or cry because I have this new expense and no income in the immediate future.  I decided to take my time a job hunt for a position that I really like and not just take the first one offered.  In the interim I had the time to take up back running (running on a cool spring morning is the best) and get so much needed mental rest.  You see the stress of my now fiancée mother being sick and my grandfather’s illness was putting a huge strain on our relationship. And it doesn’t help that we are fighting so much long distance, because it takes longer to resolve minor misunderstanding.



Here comes April and my relationship is on the mend, my job search is picking up steam and wham my grandfather is in the hospital and the prayers begins.  His prognosis wasn’t good but he pulled through and we all breathe a sigh of relief but it was short lived; on April 24th at around 2 pm EST my beloved grandfather took his last breath.  These words “He’s gone” will forever hold mystique of disbelief.  In the five weeks it took to book tickets and make arraignments, I ran an average six miles a day because I couldn't cry and the sadness was too heavy. 



My job hunt came to a screeching halt, because I just didn’t know how to cope so I spent my mornings running and the afternoons sleeping to escape my new reality.  After attending his funeral and seeing my love I was able to put things in prospective and pick up where I left off and began job hunting feverishly. After three weeks of send hundreds of resume and doing dozens of interviews I landed a position that I’m really excited about.



2017 was the year I turned the big 4-0h and got engagedto man who loves me beyond my craziness. Even though we may not see eye to eye and the long distance is trying at times our future as a unit is bright.  As I look forward towards what 2018 will bring I hope I will have the mentally fortitude and physical strength to tackle whatever the universe throws my way, be it great joy or great sadness.




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